Friday, March 18, 2011
School Conference
I just came from my parent/teacher conference with my son's teacher. He has three C's, two B's, and an A. I am very disappointed in this school's policies. When I was in school, parents could go visit their childs classroom whenever there was a problem and see for themselves what was going on. They do not let you do that anymore. It is due to the child's privacy. If I go and observe my child, I might see another child do something and comment on it. I do not agree with that. I think it is to cover the teachers butt. The teacher tells me one thing and my son has a different story. I don't know the truth because I can not go and find out for myself. His teacher said that he does not turn in all of his work. He has missing assignments. I have repeatedly ask for some communication when he has missing assignments. He has a journal that he brings home everyday with her smart remarks in it. There is very little positive feedback from her. If she notes in there that he has missing work, the paperwork or books are not there to go over it with him. She tells me that he doesn't put it in there. She will not do it for him. He tells me that she will not give him anything. I have given her my e-mail so that we can communicate privately, but she has only e-mailed me once. I ask her if she could have my son miss recess or come in early to make up any work that is missing. She said that the school will not let her keep him in from recess because he needs to run out some energy and she is not always there early enough to come in before school. I feel like I am trying here and not getting anywhere. When I get a bad report in his journal for talking, my son gets a spanking or grounded. If the teacher will not give me the assignments by sending them with him, or e-mailing them to me, I can only punish him at home. I have had to keep all of his papers that he brings home because when he started having missing work, I could go through the stack and find a couple that was supposed to be missing. The paper would not be graded, so I would send it back with him to school with my note on it showing that it had not been graded. Two of the assignments that she shows as missing, are in her pile of work to grade. I am really lost here in how to help the teacher and my son. My stepson went to this school and because he had missing assignments, he would have to have the teacher sign his journal in each class stating that he had no homework due or missing assignments everyday. He was in 7th and 8th grade. My son is in 3rd grade. If anyone has any suggestions, I am all ears.
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Honestly, I don't have any kids, but my mother-in-law is a teacher. And they are cutting back teachers big time. I am not saying this is the problem, but I know that teachers are getting fired, laid off, or have to quit because they aren't getting paid enough. They have to get bigger classes because they won't replace these teachers due to cut backs. I really see in the future chidren just being taught over the computer like college students because they can't afford teachers, books, or paper. Why should a teacher care about a student, when they don't know if they have job tomorrow? It's wrong, but very realistic.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you need to have a talk with the principal. I had some issues with my sons teacher this year and I finally went to the principal and she not only had a talk with my son to promote his positive behavior, but also with the teacher. My sons performance has improved. There are some teachers that are just lazy and don't really care much about their students due to burnout or an assortment of other reasons. My son also has the journals and he gets many blue stars for talking, etc... He is in first grade and I do what I can at home to punish him also for arguing or whatever he has done and he gets grounded from his wii. As parents we must have to keep on the school to make sure that they are doing their jobs.I call often to check to see how my son has been doing on his assignments and his teacher is very good now at communicating with me now, but she wasn't always that cooperative.
ReplyDeleteI was fortunate enough to go to a very small school where my home room teachers only had about 20 students in their class. We had some very good teachers but also had some teachers that probably shouldn’t be teaching. The good thing about it was with that few of students and that small of a community communication was pretty good. But no matter what teachers should take the time to help students and their parents with problems such as you have. Being a teacher is more than a 7 to 3:30 job and they should realize this when they sign up.
ReplyDeleteMy son is in the third grade. He goes to Galena school in Kansas and they seem to have a pretty good system in place with fake money that rewards the kids for good behavior and they have to pay if the get in trouble. This is operant conditioning at its best and might actually work for your child at home if you are interested in trying it out. As far as the teacher goes you will probably not get very much further dealing with her and maybe the best course for you is to talk with the principal like the comment above says. Good luck to you
ReplyDeleteIf, you can't get through with the pricipal get a meeting with the school board! I had to do that. Take the book that has all her "wonderful" comments in it and let them decide what to do. I am pretty sure my daughters teacher will never be a teacher again after I schedule a meeting with the school board and talked to them and let her explain her side of the story and the affect the teacher was having on her entire life; not just at school but at home as well.
ReplyDeleteTHESE KIND OF TEACHERS NEED TO BE STOPPED! They are verbally hurting our children!!!!