Work Drama

How many of you have a Drama Queen at work that you have to listen to all of the time?  I have to listen to this lady talk about every detail from the time she left work until she came back to work the next day.  She goes on and on about everything.  I am the type of person that goes to work and leaves my personal home life at home.  I do not get involved in all of the gossip around the office.  She don't care though.  Even if you are totally ignoring her with your back to her, she still continues to talk.  It doesn't matter what you ask her about a certain job, she can somehow get back to talking about herself.  She wants everyone to feel sorry for her because she has had a hard life.  She is on her third marriage, which her first two husbands have passed away, and she has three kids.  I think she is on some kind of medication because she acts like she is having panic attacks or something.  I don't know, maybe she really is.  It is really affecting her work though.  With her being in accounts payable, she really needs to pay attention to what she is doing.  She has caused other people to have to correct her mistakes because she doesn't know what she is doing.  I guess I am just blowing off some steam with this one.  I hope you all don't have to deal with someone like this.  If you do, how do you handle them?

Sunday's at Tiffany's

I know I am waiting untill the last minute to post on my blog, but I have been extremely busy for the last two weeks.  I know it is not an excuseable line, but at least it is the truth.  Anyways, I have started a new, I guess you could say, hobby.  I don't even know how long it will last, but for now, I have stayed on a routine of doing it every day.  It is reading.  I have always hated to read.  I bet I haven't read a book since I was in grade school.  It is called "Sundays at Tiffany's" by James Patterson.  I found it in my daughters book collection and thought it would be interesting, and so here I am.  Reading it. It is about a little girl who has an imaginary friend as a child and when she turns 9, he has to leave her.  She is very upset because her parents are divorced, her mother is very rich Broadway producer who is never there for her, her father has a young beautiful girlfriend who he takes to Nantucket, and the only one who listens to her is leaving her too.  I haven't gotten real far in this book, even though I am on chapter 28, but it skips ahead 23 years and her imaginary friend spots her in New York.  He is between assignments.  I am not real sure if this guy is real or not.  Has anyone else read this book?  Everyone else can see him now, but I don't think they could when she was young.  He keeps following her around, but he hasn't let her see him yet.  It is kinda interesting.  My nephew had an imaginary friend when he was about 3 I think.  My sister would go to put him in his car seat and he would scream at her to buckle up Erman too.  One time he cried his eyes out because he said that she sat on Erman.  He was devistated.  I can't waite to see how this book turns out.  I guess that is why I can't put it down.  It has only been three nights of reading so far, so hopefully it will only take another three nights to finish it. 

Worn Out

I am very tired tonight.  I have worked 60+ hours this week and I am very worn out.  I do not have much more strength to keep my eyes open.  I know I am supposed to keep up with these blog posts, but I do not see how I am going to be able to do it this week.  Right now the only thing that sounds interesting enough for me to post about is how good the bed is going to feel when I lay down in it.  It has been a long week at work.  We have had the auditors there all week and I have been getting so much stuff for them.  Today, they wanted some of the same stuff they asked for yesterday.  The good thing about them being there is that we go out for lunch.  It gives us a little break and we are able to relax and enjoy other conversation than so much accounting talk.  Anyways, have a great night and weekend everyone!

K-12 Future

I am soooo sick of this weather.  Maybe if I could get back to my own home, it would be better.  We had to come stay with my parents because we live out in the middle of no where and couldn't get in and out of our drive.  Don't get me wrong, I love my parents, but I like my own space.  It has been nice though that my dad has dinner ready when I get home from work.  He is the best cook around.  Anyways, since the accident with my son's collar bone, he has now been out of school for three weeks.  He did go Friday, two weeks ago, but he has missed so much.  That being said, I think we should have been able to get some kind of help from the schools.  Even though the kids couldn't make it to the school, why couldn't the schools have something set up online where we could get some kind of homework assignment for them to do in times like this.  How are they ever going to make all of this missed time up?  What about for the future.  I wonder if in 10 or 20 years from now if there will be online classes for K-12?  It would save a lot of money.  It would also be pretty hard for almost 100% of us parents that have full time jobs.  When we would we ever have the time to help our kids with their homework or make sure they have it done.  It would be a big responsibility for us on top of everything else.  I guess I am just thinking about this and have not really made up my mind on which way I would want it.  I know with me working late, getting my homework done, cooking dinner, laundry, and spending time with my family, I really wouldn't have much time to help.  But in our current condition, some extra effort would keep the kids from having to go to school even longer into the Summer.  This is just an idea that popped into my head and I wondered if anyone else has thought about it or has any thoughts of their own on it.

ADHD

I am not a supporter of diagnosing children with ADHD.  My son is in the third grade and he is very alert.  I mean, he is active all of the time.  Since the first of school this year, his teacher will write things like, "he can not control his behavior, he can not sit still, he is being disruptive".  I feel like he is a boy with a lot of energy.  I have read up on symptoms of ADHD, and I think that most kids would be categorized as having ADHD.  I looked at this site:  http://ezinearticles.com/?Diagnosing-ADHD---What-ADHD-Screening-Test-Tell-Us&id=4343328
and I do see these symptoms in my son, but I also see it in most kids.  My son's school wanted me to do this questionaire to see if my son could have an attention deficite, but to me, I feel like it is the teachers that do not want to deal with the children.  They want them to be on medication so that they do not have to deal with the ones that need a little more attention.  My son does not make bad grades all of his work.  He does struggle in some things though.  I have been very shocked at a lot of the things that he is learning at such a young age though.  The school thinks that he does not listen and gets distracted easily.  If he wasn't listening, he couldn't tell me some of the things that he is hearing and learning.  He is very smart and amazing.  When I was young and in grade school, we had kids in our class that always caused problems.  They were not catagorized as having ADHD.  I know it was not a diagnosis back then, but the teachers dealt with them.  Sometimes they had to have their desk right beside the teacher all year.  My son does not need medication so he can function in school.  I did not fill out the questionaire that the school wanted me to.  I have observed my son and have talked with him on his behavior at school and he knows the consequences when he does not control his energy at school.  I know a lot of people that has their own experience with this subject and their personal opinions.  I, myself, do not agree with the way it is being abused.

Disciplining your Kids

I have always disciplined my children when it has been needed.  I was disciplined a lot when I was a child.  Even now, I am disciplined when I do something wrong.  I believe I have learned a lot from my mistakes, and I believe my children will to.  You have to teach your children right from wrong.  Maybe spanking them is not the correct way to do it, but let me tell you, I have had a lot of spankings in my lifetime.  My husband always yells at his kids and say, "it better not happen again".  Well, it does happen again.  They know that is all that dad is going to do.  Since he is working 24 hours every third day, he is not home enough to follow through with much discipline.  As me being the bad stepmom, they don't listen to what I say either.  I try to tell my husband, that I am not trying to be mean, but they have to have discipline and respect.  It is our responsibility to teach them.  I found an article that has some tips on discipling your child at:  http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/discipline.html#
This article has tips on discipline at different ages.  It also advises that spanking your children should be avoided.  I have tried some of these tips already, but I am going to try the ones that I haven't yet.  I hope my husband will be willing to try along with me.

Growing Up

You know, when I was a kid, I always liked to play outside with my boy cousin Tracy.  We would ride horses, play cowboy and indians, ride the three wheeler, shoot birds and rabbits with our bb guns, and we played with cars and army men in the dirt.  We always had a lot of fun playing together.  We very seldom played anything inside the house.  I guess you could say that I was what people call a tomboy.  I did play dolls and house with my sisters, but I would much rather be playing outside with Tracy. 

I watch my son and my step children now, and wonder how they can all be so different.  My son is a lot like me when I was young.  He would rather be playing with something outside, or looking for bugs.  My step kids on the other hand would rather be sitting in their bedroom playing video games.  It drives me crazy for them not to go outside.  I know they would have a lot more fun playing out there.  We bought a trampoline and a basketball goal to help my step sons be more active.  It only helped for a little while.  Again, they spend their time inside playing video games. 

I know I wish I could go back to being a child and playing outside again.  I have many memories of all of the fun that I use to have.  The spring and summer time gets me excited because I know I will be outside taking care of the lawn and garden, and planting flowers.  I am looking forward to it very soon.